The hardest thing about adoption for me is not the mounds of paperwork. It is the not the hours of driving around to pick up forms, get things notarized, get apostilles. The hardest thing for me is not even the waiting or the unknown. It’s not that fact that I can’t see my sweet girl’s face or know if she’s okay. The hardest thing is not the financial cost although at times it seems like such a huge mountain. The hardest thing for me, is witnessing other people’s reaction to these precious children. I cannot comprehend why more people are not MOVING. I cannot understand why I can post a picture on my facebook of a sweet girl tied to her crib and nobody seems to feel the need to be outraged. What if this was your child? Would you care? Would you go to the ends of the earth to save her?
Meet Della. She is a little girl with Down Syndrome available for adoption. She is beautiful and sweet and oh so alone right now. (NOTE: This is not the little girl we are adopting, there was some confusion about that. This little girl still needs a family…..like yesterday.)
***Edited to add: Sweet Della now has a family working to bring her home! Wooohoo! Praise the Lord! See the bottom of this post for more info.***
I cannot comprehend how I can SEE this girl, and it seems no one else can. I cannot understand how if this was a picture of an animal, the world would go crazy. There would be news stories and advocacy groups and marches down the streets of Washington calling for justice! Justice for a ….dog? Meanwhile, this girl might as well be invisible. (Side note: I’m all for great treatment of animals. I’m even more for great treatment of humans. And I’m even more for great treatment of CHILDREN.)
It breaks my heart to see people look away because they don’t want to deal with the reality of the situation. I can’t live like that. I can’t live ignoring these children languishing in orphanages around the world. I cannot turn away. I cannot ignore that this 9 year old, looks like a 3 year old.
I do understand that the orphan crisis is overwhelming. But I also understand that it’s easy to turn away from because it’s not in our backyards. If this child was in the house next door to you, would you care? If this child was sitting in the street with a semi-truck barreling toward her, would you move? If there were millions of children sitting in that hypothetical street, would you save one? two? Would you save one even if you couldn’t save them all? Even if it inconvenienced you? I would. And an ocean, a mound of paperwork, a few less “things” in my lifetime, a few less nights out to dinner, a few more trips to all sorts of doctors and therapy appointments, and a little less “me time” won’t keep me from these children either. The right and wrong in this situation is easy to see. It’s just up to you if you choose to care.
I think it’s easy to blame the caretakers and orphanages for this little girl’s life. I think it’s easy to roll your eyes and think they are doing so much wrong. I don’t blame them. Some nannies are caring and want the best for these kids (and some are not caring), but they are beyond overwhelmed in the situation. They are caring for dozens of children with special needs and no resources. They are untrained, unequipped with the tools and knowledge and financial help needed. No, this is a bigger problem than a few bad nannies. This is a problem of apathy and corporate sin. And I believe that every person who chooses to go about their day and ignore this child’s picture, is part of that. I won’t be. I’ll choose love, even when it hurts. I’ll choose right, even when it’s not easy. Will you?
I don’t think that everyone needs to go adopt a child right now. I don’t even think that a little bit. I just think that more people need to truly care. To care more about the TRUTH than about how comfortable it makes them feel. Knowing the truth about orphans is not comfortable. It’s not all peaches and puppy dogs. But it’s true and it’s real and so it matters. I care about this little girl’s life. I care about her future. I think she should have the chance for a future. And I think that if everyone just took the time to really SEE her, then that would change the world. I know it’s uncomfortable. Don’t you think these children are worth a little discomfort, a little effort? Don’t you think they deserve for someone to care? For someone to SEE them? I do.
There are lots of ways to help these children besides adopting. The easiest way is to drop some money into her fund. Lack of finances is the top reason for families not committing to adopt. You can visit her page here:
You can also shout for people to see her. You can advocate for these children. You can pray for her and love her from afar. If everyone just simply CARED and did something about it, the orphan crisis would be solved and these kids would have homes. Do you care?
***EDITED TO ADD: Sweet Della does have a family now working to bring her home! Wooohooo! I know from first hand experience just how hard this process is and how much the families that step forward need so much support. PLEASE, if you can help this family, do it. Every little bit counts. Please help bring this girl home. Family, Love, Forever. I can barely grasp the awesomeness. See her families donation page here:
Will you stand with me and show Della that we DO see her, and we DO care????